When I die
do not pray for me
or perform your rites and rituals.
If you must, Live Well-
Our creation and resurrection are as a Single Soul:
Perchance you may be the bird on whose back I soar to Heaven.
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Comment:
In Muslim practice, one recites Surah Fatiha for the deceased. What is interesting about this recitation is that it is a prayer for one’s own guidance and there is nothing in it for the deceased. Why then recite it for the deceased? I understood the answer to be in Ch 31: verse 28 of the Quran “Your creation and your resurrection are not but as a single soul.”
The Conscience 
In the Bible, Jacob’s ladder, the only means to heaven, is Jesus, and one ascends only through Him since the cross is the solution to the sin problem (if we avail ourselves of it in His way).